Heartbreak

Heartbreak is frequently the end product of an unfulfilled desire or craving, the outcome of unrealistic expectations, where another person or some material pursuit is worshipped or idolised. It can also be the result of an inability to forgive and let go of those who have sinned against us."Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard (your heart), for out of it flows the springs of life." (Proverbs 4:23).Varying degrees of damage to the human spirit can be incurred. For a small minority of the wounded the damage is only slight; they are able to get on with their lives with the hurt causing only a minimum of irritation or inconvenience. Many more of the wounded are more affected and limp through life. They survive a relatively normal life but fail to realise their full potential in their friendships, in their marriages or in their day to day relationships with others. Then there are those with extreme or severe damage to their spirit. These people are greatly incapacitated; dysfunctional with all manner of emotional, psychological, physical and social disabilities. These people are forced to crawl or need to be carried through life.

"My heart is broken within me" 

poem

And when 
   he lays a finger on my skin

             I crack;
         I burn.

                      I’m not there.
#poetry #*

some words some thoughts

I want to run with reckless emotion,
find out if love is, the size of the ocean.
Even if I crash and burn,
at least I'll know what it's like to feel alive.

I may still not know what I want to be when I grow up,
but I do know that someday I want to live
in a house filled with my books and travel souvenirs.
And the walls that aren't covered in bookshelves
will be covered with photos of my family and friends.
When I leave the house I will be going to a job I love,
and I'll return to a person I love.
So, that's my dream I'm working on.

-Amber Morley

 Life

No one knows how
Or understand why
But even when we are on our own
We find strength to live another day

We go through good and bad
We are happy but more often sad
Feeling alive is the reason we wake up
Nothing feels worse than giving up

And nothing feels better
Than being alive
And life fills our minds
With so much goodness

I might not have known before
But to be alive is the best thing there is
And I want to thank all of you
Because you are the reason I know that now

And because of you I also know
Exactly what to do
To tell the world, to spread the word
Of the happy gospel of life

Words Not Spoken
© Beatrice Boyle
Although he could not say with words
The love he felt inside
He treasured every moment
And his heart would fill with pride
He never said I love you
But he came to every game
Even in defeat his son knew
He loved him just the same
He'd pat him on the head
Or maybe ruffle his hair
And tell him he was proud of him
As long as he played fair
When he graduated college
I love you wasn't said
He smiled as he shook his hand
Mumbling, well done, my boy instead
When his son went to war
He trembled as he spoke
And brushing away the tears
He made a little joke

Now, his son's come home
And he stands with eyes downcast
His hands stroking the coffin
Saying I love you son at last!

There are no rules
No checklists
No regulations
To love

So stop holding 
Yourself accountable

I did this and that….
The list goes on and on
Forever and ever
So forget the list

Just live life

It’ll come back
Love will return
Just don’t concern
Yourself with that fact
#poetry #spilled ink
8:53pm, 2 Jul - Riju Sharma: Love is Love

Who ever did say
We weren’t meant to be this way.
Who ever did decide
What’s right
Who ever did call
Love an abomination.
Who ever you are
You need your head checked.
We can be who we want.
We can love who we want.
No love is ever an abomination
Love is Love.
Nothing more
Nothing less.

- Sakshi J

Shielding Yourself from Negativity-

Shielding yourself from negativity will help you in many ways such as strengthening your thought processfor better personality development, focusing on solutions instead of problems and attaining peace of mind in nearly all kind of tough circumstances.

 

The intention of staying away from negativity is not to ignore the tough realities, rather to change your focus on things which matter most so as to change these tough circumstances. For example, keep worrying about joblessness will not bring you a new job. Instead, Focusing on applying for jobs, developing interviewing skills, reading personality development articles, refreshing your knowledge will definitely improve your probability of getting new job.

 

Focus is very important tool to shield yourself from negativity. Remember the fact that what you focus on, increases. Which means if you focus on negative things, you will end up having negative personality. On the contrary, if you focus on finding solutions to the problems, you will be successful; sooner or later. Your focus decides the direction of your thoughts; your thoughts give birth to actions. These consistent actions become your habits and eventually make your overall personality.

 

You will focus on positive things only if you have a germs-free mind; the mind free from pessimism and free from negativity. So how to achieve this state of mind? Below are some tips:

 

1- On your smart phones, download wisdom quotes and other personality enhancement applications from relevant app libraries / stores and read them often. Keep trying new applications every week.
2- 'Like' Facebook pages such as Positively Positive, Wisdom quotes, Positive thoughts etc to start receiving daily dose of wisdom.
3- Stay away from negative souls. They are consistently polluting your brain. Check if you are surrounded by such people who criticize things all the times. If yes, change your company.
4- If you notice that a discussion is going negative more and more, try changing the topic towards something exciting, healthy and fruitful.
5- If your family members are negative and you do not have a choice to leave them, then you must program yourself to deal with such consistent negative situation. For example, upon a disheartening comment from your brother  you can say "OK brother, you have a great point" Say it then laugh inside your heart and shun the comment immediately. This skill requires some practice but once properly implemented, will generate a powerful impact on your personality. 
6- Keep telling yourself that you can make things happen. Believe in yourself and you will see that your subconscious mind will find out a way to make things happen actually.

Speed Limits on the Cosmic Highway -by Janet Bray Attwood

How long it takes you to fulfill your dreams is directly related to your beliefs. There was a time when Donald Trump almost went bankrupt, yet not long after he was a billionaire again. How is that possible?

If you made a million dollars in the next year, would you consider that a good year? What do you think Donald Trump would think if he only made a million dollars in the coming year? He’d most likely think the year was a huge failure, wouldn’t he? The key difference between you and Donald is the beliefs you hold in your abilities.

What are the beliefs you hold about your ability to live your passions?

Here are some we hear:

• I can’t make money from the things I’m passionate about
• I don’t have the skills to be really successful
• I don’t know enough
• I’m too old. It’s too late for me

No matter who you are, no matter what your situation, no matter what your handicaps, thinking that these things prevent you from living your passions are all simply false ideas, false concepts, and false beliefs. These are thoughts you hold that are simply not true. They are out of sync with reality.

When you feel truly passionate about something, you will always have the ability to create it in your life.

Is it true you can’t make money from living your passions?  Would you ever believe that someone could make money from a passion for sitting around and chatting with people?  Oprah Winfrey seems to have done pretty well with that one. What about a passion for baking cookies?  Mrs. Fields seems to have managed that one.  How about a passion for watching movies?  Roger Ebert figured that one out.

What is stopping you from living your passions?

You are powerful beyond your imagination. You have created your life, and the good news is, if you don’t like it you can change it. You’re too old?  Do you know that most millionaires are made after the age of fifty-five?  While he cooked chicken for years, it wasn’t until Colonel Sanders was sixty-two that he started Kentucky Fried Chicken.

No matter what limiting belief you hold, there is evidence in the world to the contrary.  Even if there is no one who has ever done what you are passionate about doing, there is abundant evidence of people who have been successfully doing what others thought was impossible.

Your life is created first in your mind then in the world.

As long as you believe you can’t, you won’t be able to.  As long as you believe it’s not possible, it won’t be possible for you.  As long as you believe it’s too hard, it will be too hard for you. So does that mean the opposite is also true, that as long as you believe you can, you’ll be able to?  Yes, and it’s not so simple, because our beliefs run deep.  You can say, “I can do it,” and still not believe you can, deep inside.  This is why affirmations often don’t produce the results we’d like them to.

Keep looking for evidence until you can feel it deep inside and find your purpose in life.  “Of course I can do it.  Look at all the other people who have done it, look at all the evidence there is that this is possible.” This is your first and most important task in living your passions. 

Overcome your fears and live your passions with trust.

As you investigate the thoughts that make you feel afraid, that make you feel unworthy, that make you feel unlovable, you will discover something new growing in you: trust.

Your speed on the cosmic highway is directly related to your ability to trust in the benevolence of the universe.

Change your mind about what you choose to experience in your life.

What feels better, to believe that you are alone in the world, that you have to struggle and strain to get ahead, or to believe you are surrounded by a benevolent universe that is constantly giving you gifts? What feels better, to believe life is hard and difficult and disappointing, or to believe that life is an adventure, an opportunity to explore your own true nature?

When you begin to look for evidence that life is ultimately kind, you will start to find that evidence. When you begin to look for reasons to believe that every experience is a blessing, you will start to find those reasons.

As you begin to embrace the idea that life is here for your joy, that every moment is a gift, showing you the path to fulfillment, you will discover magic happening in your life.

7 Tips to Attain Peace of Mind (By Junaid Tahir)

When you were child you had a pure mind; the mind which was free from worries and anxieties. As the time passed, you were influenced by several social, personal, familial and official crises such as financial complications, broken relationship, lack of trust, joblessness, failure in business, loss of respect and so on. When the mind is stressful, the associated germs of negativity, jealousy and pessimism add fuel to fire and hence your pure mind becomes impure. These impurities if taken out can bring back the mental purity hence real spirit of joy of childhood can be attained up to an adequate level.  Off course you cannot fix all of your problem at once but you can train your mind to develop the skills which can help either bypass or overcome the depressed  and tragic situations so as to give you a big time relaxation while you focus on the solution to your problems. Below are some techniques which can be used to combat the peace stealing triggers:

 

Mind your own business. Yes, please mind your own business. When you start being concerned about things which are not related to you, you lose your grip on your thought process which often results in negativity disturbing the mental peace. Basically, your mind starts wandering here and there. As you know that a non-focused mind is evil's workshop hence the germs of negativity and jealousy gain more strength. So next time an unnecessary thought comes to your mind, think whether this is really something you should be worrying for? If not, shun it right away and focus on something positive, practical and fruitful. 

 

Surround yourself in positive people. Ignore negative comments and stay away from negative souls. When someone is negative, he spreads negativity and you get affected. Permanently staying with such people will have long term impact on your character so think about your company.

 

Don't think about others too much. Remember the great quote: small minds discuss people; Average minds discuss events; Higher minds discuss ideas and Great minds act in silence. Don't allow your brain to compare yourself to others as this is an insult to yourself. Don't be Jealous; it's a heart killing disease, get rid of it as soon as possible. When you are jealous you focus on finding faultsin others even if they don't have. This poisons your soul and steals the mental peace. 

 

You can't keep everyone happy. Don't be over sensitive. Be natural and genuine in what you do. Be positive, constructive and ethical in your deeds and then don't really care too much about others. Be aware, don't apply this formula to too closed relations. Develop trust to establish powerful relationships.

 

Control your mood swings as it is an indication of unstable personality. Do it by not being over sensitive to others. Stop being reactive and implosive. Stay calm.

 

Ignore your thoughts about being unlucky. Bad luck happens to everyone. It's not your fault at all. Time whether good or bad, passes quickly. Develop the power of not looking back into your past. Believe in the power of Now.  Believe in your skills. Work hard and have faith in God; you will get what you have been entitled for. Be patient and see what God has planned for you. Patience and consistency in your deeds is the key to success.

 

Simplicity in your character and living style can overcome the stress and improve your happiness index. Don't be socially sensitive and start following every single trend your social circle is following. 

 

With these recommendations, I believe you can bring major changes in your life style hence attain back your mental peace. What are your recommendations in gaining mental peace?

You Are My Breath © Nikhil Parekh

You’re the answer to all my riddles in life;
miraculously healing all my traumatized agonies; with
the insatiable magic in your voice,

You’re the voice that makes me celestially rest;
shrugging all my frazzled vagaries into non-existent
wisps of oblivion,

You’re a mountain of invincible strength that I needed
when I disdainfully collapsed; incessantly inspiring
me to add vibrant dimensions to every tomorrow that
blissfully unfurls,

You’re an incredulous magical wand; that metamorphoses
all my staggering impossible’s; into the winds of
irrefutably blazing triumph,

You’re a cloud of innocent angels; that always made me
feel I was that euphorically bouncing child once
again; even as I treacherously slipped towards the
corridors of extinction,

You’re a bountiful paradise of newness; triggering me
to indefatigably fantasize all brilliant day; and even
while embracing the mists of diabolical midnight,

You’re an idol of astoundingly philanthropic
benevolence; instilling in me the indispensable
ingredients of everlasting mankind,

You’re a river of perpetual harmony that cascaded past
my window; making me wholesomely bask in the
stupendous glory of natures mystical endowment,

You’re a bow of astronomical courage; relentlessly
transpiring me to unflinchingly fight for my
ruthlessly incarcerated tribe,

You’re a marvelously glistening shore that harbors all
impoverished in your compassionate warmth; teaching me
to forever salute the immortal religion of humanity,

You’re a fountain of divinely peace; bestowing my
famished existence; with pearls of royal wisdom and
unconquerable unity,

You’re a tantalizing seductress dancing in the aisles
of untamed desire; compelling me to take an infinite
births; as every minute unveiled into delightfully
charismatic light,

You’re a rainbow of vivaciously versatile diversity;
propelling me to intransigently discover and explore;
the unfathomably wonderful beauty of this sacrosanct
planet,

You’re an Omnipotent flame of never-ending hope;
enlightening each aspect of my depravingly sinister
existence; with the stupendous optimism of your
heavenly stride,

You’re a magnanimous reflection of poignant empathy;
wonderfully pacifying the devastated rebel in my
veins; with the benign smile on your majestic lips,

You’re an enigmatic tunnel of unbelievable
enthrallment; that never lets me exhaust in my
conquest for success; fomenting me to plunge every
instant; into the valley of unsurpassable adventure,

You’re an epitome of beautifully revered sharing;
nourishing each element of my lecherously debilitated
existence; with the passion in your godly soul,

You’re a township that keeps proliferating into
newness all the time; massacring even the most
inconspicuous trace of rust; frustration;
dilapidation; from my penurious life,

Over and above all; you’re the girl whom I have not
just simply loved; but an Omniscient messiah who was
my breath; my body; my blood; every time God had
granted me life on this earth .

Source: by-nikhil-parekh#ixzz2ZjagHCRv