One’s Reaction

When we feel negative emotion, we as a race have been taught by the example of others to react—re-in-act—what it is we have seen or done before. This means that when someone outside of ourselves does something that creates a negative emotion within us, we tend to react to that person. We select a reaction meant to illustrate to the other just how we feel about how they made us feel. In turn the person you reacted to reacts back, and so the war begins and the negative emotion rises within you both. This is the common cycle of reaction.

This cycle that I have described varies in degree from a mild and quick reaction to a destructive and life-threatening reaction that potentially could cause harm to both parties involved. If you look, or more importantly feel, you will see that negative emotion is the trigger that you say causes you or any other to react at all. You say this because you feel the other person caused you to feel pain and you will not tolerate that. No one is allowed to cause you pain, so you react accordingly inflicting them with the pain you feel.
This thinking is backwards and this is why. When another outside of you says or does something that creates a negative emotion within you, your first thought is to react since you do not like the feelings the other has caused in you. This is not the right thing to do because the negative emotion you felt was simply a warning from your soul telling you through the feeling of that negative emotion that this which you feel compelled to do or say will lead you toward MORE PAIN. However, we have not been taught this; we have been taught to react so that is what we do. As a result of that reaction, we feel even more negative emotion rise up within us, a stronger warning. If we decided to listen to the warning and choose not to react but instead say to the other, “I see where you are coming from and appreciate your perspective, but I would have to think about your words or actions and then let you know what I think.”
Automatically you would receive a more positive emotion from your soul telling you using this method to allow yourself to think over a situation will lead you to a better solution than just reacting to it.
The other person might react to what you just said by telling you, “I WANT AN ANSWER NOW!” If you react negatively to this, you will just join the cycle. The best way to respond would be to say, “Listen to me; I do not want to fight you; I want to think about what you are saying so that I may give you a reasonable answer.” Again you would feel a positive emotion and as the other considered your words and noted that they were not reactive, they too would feel a more positive emotion.

We were taught to REACT; we have seen it everywhere. We have understood it to BE THE WAY TO ACT, the way to behave. Even though it brings us more great pain in the form of negative emotion, we do it time and time again.
STOP REACTING and take note of how you FEEL in the moment that you want to react. If a negative emotion is present, look for another approach—one that gives you a feeling of positive emotion. If you can learn to do this, you will save yourself much pain in the future and flow toward what you prefer.

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